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[ladyt]

Great book! Thanks SAM for your wisdom. I broke it off with the guy I was seeing. It was difficult but guess what? I don't miss him like I thought I would. I knew it was not going to be what he wanted. I need to understand singleness again and what I need to improve within myself with the help of the Holy Spirit.

He says he still wants to be friends, however I told him we could not be friends under the circumstances and that we can talk from time to time but not on daily basis and not about a romantic relationship. He has not called since I called it off on Monday.

[SAM]

Singleness for a time is not a bad thing. You've been through so much the past few years, that spending time to know yourself and love yourself, and continuing to learn to depend on your emotional and relational needs through God... is a good thing.

With school, it is tough to find time for things outside of reading textbooks and writing papers. However, if you can participate in a bible study with other women, it helps form those friendships and bonds that us women seem to need.

If God brings another man into your life, you will know it. He will be emotionally and financially healthy and a strong man who knows his identity in Christ. It may be longer than you want to wait, but sometimes the waiting part strengthens our dependence on God for our needs.

Glad to hear you made this decision.

[ladyt]

This is true. I am involved with a women's bible study group. We meet once a month and we do outings once a quarter after our study. My daughter and I will be going out of town next Friday. My grandson is coming over this evening for an overnight stay.

I have spoken with the guy 2 or 3 times and I'm glad as it assisted me in getting over this brief encounter. Glad I made the decision as well.

I worked out for the first time in months this morning and I feel great. I read something this morning that I truly enjoyed and reminded me of this forum. Here's an excerpt:

"Scripture encourages us to fellowship with one another," says Sabrina Black. "It says to encourage one another as long as today is today. As you are spending time with people who are concerned about the things of God, they're going to encourage you in your walk with God. If you are pursuing godliness, then they're going to challenge you when your behavior is anything other than biblical. People who are concerned about godliness will be able to look at Scripture and say, 'This is a clear application. This is a clear violation.'"

Thanks Growtrac family!

[SAM]

Enjoy your visit. I pray this weekend is a time of enjoyment for you with your daughter and grandson.

We love having you with us LadyT!

[ladyt]

Thanks SAM,

Its difficult. My grandson is almost 8 mos and has this congestive type cough and my dau won't take him to the doctor. Then she called just now saying she does not have gas to take him to the doctor, so of course I am going to give her money for gas. He sounds like he is choking. I'm surprised her dad did not say anything to her about it. Her aunt did. The baby NEEDS to be seen. Its been 2 months of this cough and its heart-breaking to hear him. His lungs could fill with that and he could choke.

[SAM]

Is your grandson okay? Did she get him to the doctor? I am so saddened by this.

We did a segment on child neglect in school this week as part of my courses. And, I visited a pregnancy center today.

I am praying for him.

[ladyt]

Not sure. I contacted the paternal grandmother to see if she could contact her to get him to the doctor. My daughter cursed me saying I am so "D%%" dramatic and that I was "p^**$ing her off and not to tell her anything else about the doctor. I do not want to talk to her right now and have cancelled our trip for Friday. It hurts me when she curses me and tries to blackmail me with the baby. She is suspended for today because of her defiance at school so she could have taken her baby to dr. She blew her money for the month in 4 days and wants to get some from me with her dad's coaching. I can't do this.

[SAM]

Maybe he has allergies or asthma. My grandson has both and he would do this little half sneeze/half cough sounding thing when he was little. He still does it sometimes when the allergies are bad.

[ladyt]

I wish it was a little sneeze or half cough. He starts and cannot stop. HIs paternal grandmother called today concerned as did my dau's aunt last week. I emailed her dad to see if he would ask her to take him. Of course he will not respond. She lied today to the paternal grandmother and said they said she could not bring him there... I called and they told her the proper procedures , not that he could not come. So I texted her and asked her to do a walk-in to his current dr.

[resecured]

ladyt,

Is the little guy having fever with any of this? Eight months old? Gosh, that doesn't seem possible! My heart goes out to him and you. I know it cannot be easy to just have to cringe and wait on someone as young and inexperienced as your daughter. I pray she will do the right thing very soon. What about CPS? Aren't they suppose to keep an eye on him and your daughter?

-RJ-

[ladyt]

CPS is useless! Unless she breaks his arm or give him crack cocaine...they see NOTHING. I reported her 3 times. Matter of fact my dau discontinued that service. Since it was not court ordered, his overseer had to stop visiting. I asked my dau why she ended the visits and she said she did not like the lady. I think the paternal grandmother have a plan so we'll see how it works out today.

[rdsmith3]

There are a lot of incompetent people in CPS, and they are overworked. However, there are still some good, caring people. My wife used to work in our state's agency many years ago, and she is a caring person. I also met some good people in CPS when I went through my ordeals with my first wife abusing our children.

So I suggest you not give up on them, and try to impress on them the seriousness of this.

[ladyt]

I agree. The caseworker my grandson had was nice but she told me her hands were tired. Unless my dau did something harmful to the point of injury all they can do is give her services until she decides she no longer needs them.

Good news is his grandmother took him to the doctor today. He is on meds and has Bronchitis. He is taking treatments every 4 hrs and will remain with his grandmother for the next 4 days. Praise God for his paternal grandparents.

[resecured]

Ladyt,

You're so right! Praise the Lord for her taking him to the dr. That could have turned into pneumonia very quickly. Is your dau. staying with them too?

I wonder how long it will take before she sees that maybe it would be good for him to live with the paternal grandparents. Would that be a possibility?

-RJ-

[ladyt]

No she lives in her dad's apt until end of Jan when his lease is up. Not sure where she will go at that time. Her dad is telling her to come back and stay with me He moved into his new home las week.

She will not let the baby go stay with anyone. He's her bargaining chip as well as her son.

She does not listen to anyone about the baby. She knows it all already.