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[octobermom09]

My husband and I have been married since March of 09, so we are still very much newly weds. We were childhood friends and even though we have a six year age difference, (I am nearly 20 and he just turned 26) we were never romantic until I was in college. When we began dating, we saw in each other what we were looking for, and were quickly married. (We began dating in October of 08) Well now we are expecting our first child due in October and lately everything between us has been falling apart. We have endured so much stress with jobs, my pregnancy, and finishing our house that we seem to have forgotten about each other in the process.

After a vicious fight over something small that both of our families were brought into (my family no longer likes him and doesn't forgive either), we discovered that we needed help to get back on our feet. Today I requested information on marriage counseling where, if accepted, we would begin classes immediately.

Is it too soon to begin marriage counseling or should we maybe try and work this all out on our own?

[km]

As one married almost 30 years, it is my firm yet humble opinion that the best time to start marriage counseling (or other marriage building activities) is before marriage. It should contiue throughout the marriage (right up until one of you dies).

This should be encouraged to the point of being essentially a moral mandate.

[resecured]

After being married 34 years, and finding out about my husband's sordid past during most of our marriage, I am now seeking counseling. I wish that we could have gone to counseling early in our marriage because I strongly believe it would have headed off the utter chaos that our marriage is now in.

Go. Don't let it fester.

-RJ-