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[charity1]

dgr,
That is wonderful! Reassurance and affection go a long way toward healing. Keep up the good work and the praying. I'll keep praying for you.

[SAM]

That is wonderful!

Remember these moments. Paint them over your heart and cherish them because you almost lost this moment.

I have a very special memory from seven years ago while my husband and I were in Italy. In the early morning laying in bed with my husband gently snoring next to me, wrapped in his arms, in a hotel that was previously a monastery built in the 1400's. We had the door to the patio open, the breezes coming in and the sound of the ocean waves. It's one of those times together, I will never forget. And, when we are at odds with each other, that's the place I let my mind travel to, to remember a very special moment together - and it usually diffuses my anger at him.

[montanna]

DGR,

That is so amazing! Wishing the best! Everything that you described sounds like it is from a deep place in her heart! Just keep doing what you are doing!

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[Elligirl]

Your post brought tears to my eyes. May God bless you both with many more times like that.

[dgr]

All day today we were close. (We both work at the same school). She told me that she felt as if she had taken a giant leap forward inside her heart. It was very different today, very nice. I honestly believe that we made another milestone.

She did tell me that she thought that we weren't all the way fixed but she like where we are headed. We are definitely on the down hill side of this ordeal.

[resecured]

Don't cha just love the positive reenforcement!!!!!!

-RJ-

[SAM]

Only God! He deserves all the glory and praises!

[Elligirl]

[dgr]

An update.

Somewhere in early November she told me that she was ready for a new beginning. She came and wrapped me up and asked me to forgive her for everything, that she didn't know what she was thinking in wanting to leave. She thanked me for sticking out the tough times over the past couple of months. I also thanked her for staying as well.

It was like the slate was wiped clean!

Since then things have been great. No fights, no hurts, etc... Oh sure we've had some disagreements along the way but the main thing both of us have tried to focus on is going forward. We've disagreed in decent ways.

I've made lifetime changes within myself. 1. Not being so touchy about the money, 2. Being around and a part of the family more, 3. Being a help around the home, 4. Being attentive to her. Once I made these changes it became easy for me and oh how its had an effect on her. I wish someone would have slapped me a long time ago.

I did have to bite my knuckles in private a couple of times though when I stayed at home or went shopping with her when it was the middle of deer season and the old me would have went hunting. Just between us though. She appreciated that. The old me would have left on Friday night and not come back until Sunday night every single weekend for two months. My new approach to family had such an effect on her that she even came with me for a few trips with me and the boys. It was very nice.

She's made some serious changes as well. She is the wife that I married. Attentive, loving, nice, thoughtful, etc...

We still make mistakes, sometimes we step on each others toes but God its so much different than it was. Its like we both shed old crusty skin or something.

God has blessed us both. Although I would never want to go through that ordeal again and I wish we hadn't have went through it, God used that time to bring about a renewed, invigorated love between us. We are playful again, friends with each other, I am so incredibly thankful for this wonderful woman that I just can't explain it all in typed words.



Thankyou God. Thanks to all of you for your advice as well.

[km]

Great to hear!

It gives some of the rest of us hope.

[charity1]

dgr,
I am so happy for you and your wife. An unselfish love can work wonders. If we put God first in our lives and our spouse second, everything will fall into place. It's when things become all about "me" that things get messed up. Keep up the good work! It's awesome to hear of prayers being answered.

[SAM]

Yeah God for answered prayer! It's so good to hear you are heading in a positive direction.
Our marriages are always a work in progress.

[resecured]

Wonderful!!!!!! Just keep remembering it's a daily choice.

-RJ-

[SweetBride202]

If she really loves you then she will not leave you as well as your children but it seems that shes different for 11 yrs. of being together,its just easy for her to be like that.maybe time will come that she could realized of what she did..
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