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[Fabulous_Frog]

Me and my ex husband were married for 10 years. We had a very rocky marriage and got divorced a year and a half ago. We have 2 young kids together. We are back together after taking time apart for counseling and to make changed within ourselves. We are stronger than ever and we are getting married again. We are living together now before the wedding. Is this considered fornication? I know that it says in the bible "let no man tear apart a marriage designed by God" (Can't remember exactly how it goes). I still wonder if this is wrong. Thanks for your help!!!

[SAM]

I still wonder if this is wrong.

If you're asking... I think the Holy Spirit has been taping you on the shoulder. Deep within your heart you know this is not what God wants for you.

You won't find any scripture in the bible that says, "thou shall not live together". It simply did not happen in the culture or time the bible was written. But, there is plenty of scripture to address sex before marriage, avoiding evil/sin and no longer conforming to the ways of this world as followers of Jesus Christ.

What a couple has to decide is this -

Are you willing to be obedient in all things, or only a few things?
Are you a shining example of God's light? Are you walking with Him through a different journey that does not conform to the way the world does things?

Romans 12:2
Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.


Philippians 4:8
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
3 God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin. 4 Then each of you will control his own body[a] and live in holiness and honor—5 not in lustful passion like the pagans who do not know God and his ways

1 Thessalonians 5:22-23
22Avoid every kind of evil. 23May God himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through. May your whole spirit, soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.


I pray you will consider what is God honoring. And, if you have children, the example you can both set of a God honoring relationship that does not participate in sex prior to marriage or living together speaks volumes.
Trust God to find one of you a place to live until you are married. Trust God for the blessings he wants to give you.

You may not have done things based on God's design the first time through, please prayerfully consider setting the foundation of this new marriage on God's promises.

Deep in your heart, I believe you know this is not what God wants for you.
Making the right decision and trusting Him is the hardest thing you can do. bThe blessings He has in store for you are beyond measure.