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[Elligirl]

Thank you so much for your prayers. I had a really bad night last night. To know that ya'll are praying for me helps. God bless each and every one of you.

[Elligirl]

My husband asked me to go to his swearing in with him last night. Everything started out pretty rocky but ended well.
When he left he whispered to me"every thing is going to be alright"

Thank you so much for your prayers, please continue to pray.

God bless you

[resecured]

Keeping you in my prayers.

-RJ-

[Elligirl]

Thank you RJ.

[ladyt]

You are in my prayers. It's so sad what we have to endure this in a marriage, however in God's eyes, trials are allowed for a reason and we must thank Him for how He is going to deliever us from it.

My counselor told me she has never met a stronger woman than me to endure what I have over the past 3 years. I told her it was not me, I had help from God.

Please keep praying. We go to our hearing on July 9th to see if the judge will dismiss the temporary injunction or make it permanent with an expiration date. It could be up to 1 year.

[Elligirl]

Praying.

[Elligirl]

The ow has been gone now for over two weeks they have spoken on the phone only once in that time but she has left him a couple of voice mails.
He was at my house yesterday after I got home. His heart was breaking and he was crying over her again.
It is the fact that she keeps leaving him that keeps him hanging on to her. I truly belive if they stayed together very long without the separations caused by her leaving he would have long since been more than ready for her to leave.
satan has turned up the heat again.
After he left me he called me about 12 midnight and talked somemore and cried somemore over the fact that she was gone.

Please pray

[resecured]

Elligirl,

You are a stronger person than I to listen to anything he would have to say about the OW. I'd be hard put to endure him crying to me about her. He needs to really see her for what she is doing. It amazes me that people can get so brainwashed by other people that they don't see what's really good for them right before their eyes.

Praying for God to give you strength and wisdom how best to handle this situation.

-RJ-

[Elligirl]

RJ,

Thank you so much for your prayers.
When God told me He wanted me to stand for my marriage I told Him I did not have the love I would need to have for my husband to do this. I ask Him to give me His love for my husband and He has.

This is without a doubt one of the hardest things I have ever done in my life. I went back to God several months ago and ask Him again if I "had" to stand He said no. I ask Him then what would happen to my husband if I did not and He answered me with a question "Do you care?" Yes Father I care, "Then stand."

I have something a friend sent me awhile back when I was going through a really bad time I would like to share it.


Ten Signs You Are
Standing Strong

* Everyone thinks
You are crazy
* Your church doesn’t
know what to do
with you
* Friends roll their
eyes when you tell
of hearing from God
* You are hearing “Get
on with your life”
about once a week
* Someone has told you
“I wish I had your faith”
* Many have reminded you
of your prodigal’s free will
* The singles’ ministry has
given up on inviting you
to functions
* You play praise music
more than the television
* When you pick up your
Bible it falls open to a
favorite verse
* You’ve heard the prodigal
express, “I’m never coming
home”


God Bless You All

[resecured]

Elligirl,

I understand. We think we would know what we would do if a certain situation would happen in our lives. Especially a devastating one. I use to believe wholeheartedly that I would divorce my h. should he ever so much as blink wrongly at another woman. Well, here I sit, "talking" on a forum with wonderful people who are in the midst of some sort of crisis in their marriage too. The magnitude of my h. deceit and unconcern at that time still floors me. That I am still here, in this marriage, still floors me. Yet, I am.

We each have to do what we feel led to do, by God. There are no right or wrong feelings in this kind of craziness. What I might feel may not be what is right for you or vice versa. Just know that I am praying for you.

-RJ-

[Elligirl]

RJ,

Thank you so much for your reply.
There is one thing we know: God is in control.
We have very simular things happen all the time, usually when things start going really bad the same things happen to many people at the same time. It is as if satan sends waves of evil at us. However our answers from God are for us only not for a group of people just for us.
People keep telling me I need to get tough, but I am only me, I am the way God made me.
I am so sorry you have to go through all this pain, but God will make it all for good.

God Bless You

[rdsmith3]

I am so sorry you have to go through all this pain, but God will make it all for good.

God Bless You

You have a great perspective on all this.

I was just reading Romans 8 a few minutes ago. You reminded me of

Romans 8:18

For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us.

Romans 8:28

And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.

and
Romans 8:31

If God is for us, who can be against us?

[Elligirl]

As you know the ow in my husbands life has been gone for over three weeks now. My husband talked to her sister Sunday night(I am not sure who called who) and she told him the ow has found someone else.

Thank all of you for your prayers. Please continue to help me pray.

[resecured]

(((((Elligirl)))))

Just please be careful with your heart. If it were me I would not just welcome him back with open arms. I would definitely see the need for counseling. You have my prayers.

-RJ-

[Elligirl]

RJ,

Thank you so much for your concern. The truth is he is not trying to come back. We talk often and see each other more but he had told me awhile back that he would not hurt me again by coming back unless he knew he was ready to stay. He has ask me to please be patient until he knows for sure they are over with. If she was to call him today wanting to come back he would take her back. If that should happen he will break all comunications with me off. He would marry her.