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((((((Elligirl))))))

My heart goes out to you, dear sister. I wonder if he believes marrying her would change her. If so, he is in for a rude awakening.

-RJ-

[charity1]

Elligirl,
Pray that the bond will be broken between him and the OW. It looks like it has already been broken on her part, but pray that it will be on his part as well. Pray that he will see the real her and not the fantasy woman he has concocted in his head. If she has already found someone else, this has crushed his ego. He will need time to work through all of this. You two are in my thoughts and prayers.

[Elligirl]

Rj,

Yes he does think marrying her will change her, just like he thought giving her a place to live would, buying her a car would, taking furniture out of our home to create a place for her would, treating me like dirt and her like a queen. None of that worked marrying her was the only thing he has not done.

Charity,

Yes I have been praying that the bond he has with her would be broken. Once it has been I don't think he would ever even try and trust her again.
I pray for that every day. Yes it was only a fantasy most affairs are.


Thank both of you for your prayers please continue to pray.

God Bless You Both

[Elligirl]

satan is attacking from every direction. please pray.

The ow's sister called yesterday to tell my husband that they were coming back to the state. My husband had just put the car he bought for the ow to use up *, we live in a very small town and every one knows everything that goes on, so I'm sure someone called them and told them about the car. The ow didn't talk to him but I'm sure they just wanted to head off the sale.

There is yet another woman in the picture. Someone who is in the center my husband works at has "hooked him up" with their own girlfriend, I'm sure they will try and get special privilages out of him for the inmate. It could cost him his job. She lives several hundred miles away so all that is going on so far is letter writing and phone calls. When we talked about it he told me he just likes the attention.

Please pray for me. I am so tired and I just want my Father to take me home with Him

[Elligirl]

I just wanted to update.
The last time I posted I reported my husband was talking to another woman, now there are two. The new one is closer to where he is living than I am. I don't know how serious this has become yet. Only time will tell.

He did sell the car.

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Elligirl,

You are still so very much in my prayers. How are you doing? What are you doing for you these days? Take care of yourself, ok?!

-RJ-

[Elligirl]

RJ,

Thank you so much for your prayers. I am doing pretty much the same as always. One day at a time.

[Elligirl]

My husband told me last night the ow is back in town. She has not called him. Someone she knew saw him last night and told him the ow had come by her house looking for a place to stay. She has worn out her welcome with just about every one around here. I feel it is just a matter of time before she calls my husband. Not because she cares about him but just to use him again to take care of her.
Please help me to pray he will see it for what it is and not fall into satan's trap again.

Thank you and God bless you

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((((Elligirl))))

Am praying on your behalf. May God open his eyes to the truth.

-RJ-

[Elligirl]

Thank you RJ.

Over the weekend my husband found out that the ow is living with a man that she was involved with when she and my husband were already seeing each other. When she was out of the state she was with a different man and when she came back here she moved in with this one.

My husband is still calling her and begging her to come back. Please pray that he will escape satan.

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Hard to understand his actions with knowing all of that about the ow, isn't it? It's like, "What gives here?" It's still so hard for me to grasp how a person can just so willfully pick wrong. When there's no denying the wrong in a given situation.

I'm still praying for ya, dear sister.

Always,
-RJ-

[Elligirl]

The bible tells us we fight a spritual warfare not a physical one. I read a book on the Jezebel Spirit that sounds just like what he is going through.

Since my last post here he has decided that he needs to get over her by getting even and being with other women. I told him she doesn't care who he is with and he is only hurting me and himself.

[Elligirl]

There has been allot going on lately. Just a quick update.
The ow in my husbands life has now moved in with another man. She has had two different men since leaving him at the end of June. He is still crying over her.

However he has been spending more time with me and we went to church togeether Sunday. It was a church in another town so no one knew what was going on with us.

From the time the service started my husband started crying and continued to do so all the way till the sermon was finished. The pastor invited all who would to come to the alter, my husband did taking me with him. We were the last ones to leave.. He told me afterwards God had gotten his attention.

By Monday afternoon he was really upset again. Talking down to me and acting like every thing in his life that was wrong is my fault.

Please pray for me.

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Elligirl,

I just wonder, how do you react to his downing and blaming you over this business?

-RJ-

[Elligirl]

I try very hard to stay calm and not talk to him the way he does to me. If I lose control it makes me feel as if I do not trust GGod to handle what ever comes up and I am trying to control.
I don't however always manage to remain calm. That just makes things worse.

I have tried very hard to understand that the things my husband says to me are not from him but just things satan puts in him to say. That doesn't mean it hurts any less.

The ow always talked to him like he was dirt. I never did understand why hw would allow that. No woman should talk to a man that way. She just had him under her control and she knew it. That is not what I want, I want my husband to love me as Christ loves the church. I want a marriage built upon the Solid Rock the Lord Jesus Christ. I don't want to control him nor do I want him to control me. I want us to love and honor one another.

I don't want to set conditions neither do I want him to. We should love one another unconditionally.

I know that sounds like I want it all and I do. God can do anything.