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[Elligirl]

I believe I am being lead to pray for spiritual healing for my husband this week and that our marriage will be restored.
The last week was full of turmoil in every way for him and the other woman.
Pray that we will never see or hear from her again and when she goes so will the sins that so easily beset my husband and that God will fill him with the Holy Spirit to take the empty spot where the sins were.
Please pray with me toward this end.

[j3anjean]

I am praying for you Elligirl, that this woman will leave your life and your marriage alone. I'm praying for protection for your marriage and for restoration.

[mhaprov]

My heart and prayers are absolutely with you.

[Elligirl]

Thank you so much for your prayers. I feel God is working. I really don't know what is going to happen but do feel this is the time.

God Bless You

[FaithHopeJoy]

I am praying for healing in your marriage, Elligirl. God delivers miracles, often when we are on the brink of giving up hope! Maybe the turmoil you have experienced last week is part of His perfect plan for you.

Sometimes, God calms the storm. Other times, He allows the storm to rage but calms us!

[Elligirl]

Thank you all so very much for your prayers. My husband was home all weekend including Memorial Day. Last night he went back to the house he shares with her and is on his way even now to pick her up to take her back there. She left last Friday.
We spoke last night before going to sleep and he told me it was wonderful to be home again. He had forgotten what it felt like. I feel we are there and that this time of taking her back will be the last.
Please continue to pray.

[Elligirl]

I still feel restoration is here. Things have changed so fast since I first posted this request. I feel God is at work every day, satan is fighting very hard.
The other woman left a week ago tomorrow, she has laid down terms for her return that my husband says he will not meet. I feel even if he does she will not stay and that it will be the end.
Please keep me in your prayers.

[schapman1]

I am praying for you and your marriage. Being apart from a spouse is tough i can attest to that. i pray for the healingand restoration to take place.Standing and beliving takes faith and patience. I for one am still trying to learn teh patience part. Just know that you are in my prayers.

[Elligirl]

I thank all of you once again for all your prayers.
I feel God working every day. Things are changing so fast I can hardly keep up. Since my last post the ow has come back twice and left twice. The forst time she came back my husband just went and got her. She would not tell him no but went with him. Then told him she needed to go back to work on some things. The very night she went back to the other place she and her sister were both thrown out, the sister called my husband to come and get them. Two days later they left while he was at work.

Please continue to pray.

God bless you all

[resecured]

Elligirl,

Do you mind me asking what sort of strangle hold does the OW have on him? Apparently she treats him horribly. You had said in a prior posting that it seemed that he was not going to meet her terms this last time for her return.

I pray he wakes up to what is happening. You, my friend, are a stronger woman than I am with all of this. I pray he sees what he has in you.

-RJ-

[Elligirl]

I do not fully understand what the hold is. I feel it is a spirit that she has that causes this. I have read some things on the Jezebel spirit and it sounds so much like what is going on.
I wish I could explain how truly vile this woman is I know it sounds like when I say it that I am saying the things about her I say because of the circustances. But that is not the case.
She has used men in this way all her life. She is by no means an attractive woman. She has no education(reads and writes like a third grader, if that well), she draws what is called a "crazy check" from the government. She does not know how to dress or fix her hair. Nothing.
I felt at first my husband was attracted because he felt like he was so much better than she was an she looked up to him, but she makes the demands, talks to him like he is a dog and he treats her better than he ever treated me.
She leaves him every two to three weeks, stays gone three or four days then calls him to come and get her, he always goes. She called him at 2:30 one morning after he had not heard from her for three days to come out of state and pick her up he left within hours to go.
Things have been changing lately. She left a week ago and called him to tell him to go on with his life, she was sorry that she had "done him wrong". He has been to my house every day crying about her and blaming me because he says I never liked her and was glad she was gone. It is hard to understand why he would think I would like her.
Please continue to pray for me. I feel I am doing the right thing but it is very hard. Please pray also that the spirits which are causing this will be bound.

[charity1]

Elligirl,
It sounds like temporary insanity to me! Probably at first he felt like her knight in shining armor, now he doesn't want to lose that feeling, so he keeps fighting for it. She has become a challenge to him. He knows he has you, but she doesn't give him that assurance. I have suggested this before, but since he knows you are always there for him no matter what, maybe you shouldn't be so available anymore. You need to become the challenge. Make him fight for you! The fact that he blames you, shows you aren't getting any respect from him. If you have read many of my posts on this forum, you know I am not for divorce at all, and I'm not saying give up. You keep praying, but stop being there to comfort him every time he messes up. When our children do wrong, we punish them, we don't coddle them, and a grown man shouldn't be coddled when he does wrong either.

When I asked my husband what finally made him finally decide to get away from the OW, he said, "You eventually come to your senses." Your ex-husband needs time and space to come to his senses.

I respect your dedication to your ex-husband, but there comes a time when you have to let him suffer the consequences of his actions.

[Elligirl]

I have told him to just leave me alone if he thinks all he says is true. I even told him if he felt marrying her was what it would take he should do that. I know she will never change. I know nothing between them will ever work out.
I try so hard to be a true Christian. Not just someone who uses the right words. Maybe I am wrong but it is hard if not impossible to be any way other than the way I am.
Thank you so much for your concern. I do wish most of the time I could just hide and not be found.

[charity1]

Elligirl,
My heart goes out to you. It is obvious you are trying to be a true christian. I continue to pray for you.

[resecured]

Dearest Elligirl,

I've not read it but I hear that book "Tough Love" is wonderful for situations such as this. Charity is right in that he needs to see you as a challenge. If not, this behavior will never stop. Especially since he is even getting upset and blames you for her leaving him. You need to put up some sort of boundaries for your own sanity. Just be careful. Don't become his doormat, you deserve better than that kind of treatment. Being a Christian doesn't mean we should take being treated in an uncaring and hurtful way.

Please know that I am earnestly praying for you. I know it's hard, but sometimes you have to take a stand for yourself.

-RJ-