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[schapman1]

Please pray for My marriage to be restored and that reconcilliation will take place.
My wife and i have been seperated since december. I made many

mistakes over our 9 years together. She filed for divorce witha divorce attorney i am paying temporary child support and we had a custody mediation session yesterday that did not end well. she wants sole custody i want joint custody.Really of course i just want my family healed and restored.It is tearing me up inside. picked up Stormies book-power ofa praying husband at the library. i miss my wife, i misss our two young children and really don't want the every other weekend and a few hours on holidays and birthdays.just raising Kids in a broken home is not God's plan or intention for marriage.Pray for God to soften her heart. Commuication has occured over the last couple of months however she says she is hurt and confused an dnot sure how she feels.There is a restraining order(which for all purposes is null and void because she contacted me-but i won't push the issue and she can officially have it dropped at anytime)Please pray. i'm learning how to pray by reading the book. some of the topics hurt a little because of the seperation, but i'm sure the prayers still work regaurdless ofteh situation.
Thanks and God Bless

[Elligirl]

I am praying for you and your family.
God hates divorce.
Keep trusting in Him.

[schapman1]

Thank you for standing with me in prayer. The emotional rollercaoser sometimes is overwhelming. It is comforting to know tha Jesus understands the hurt and pain. I am enjoying Stormies book I am praying those prayers daily over my wife and children well until the book goes back to the library on June 14th. I'm goingto have to copy down those prayers. thank you again. we are communicating but it has been very sparse since the friday mediation.God can still heal her and heal and restore this marriage.

[Elligirl]

Yes, God is able.
It is very sad to see so many marriages being torn apart.
Most people will tell you to "just get on with your life"
God's word tells us that God hates divorce.

It is not easy taking a stand for your marriage but I feel if we honor God's word He will honor our "Stand"

I am still praying for you

[Elligirl]

This may be something that will help you.

http://www.rejoiceministries.org/

[schapman1]

What a wonderful confirmation. I signed up in January and have been recieving the Charlyne Cares emails. It does get emotionally tough somtimes, and all the legal stuff makes my head swim, but you know what? i don't want anyone else but the bride I took my vows with and the family unit we started together. this Is Gods Will For Marriage.yeah the world says..go on with your life, find somone else. they are so mislead.
Thank you for keeping my family and myself in your prayers.

[Elligirl]

I understand so well because I am myself a "Stander"
God has been at work for the past few weeks and I know we are restored.
My husband just doesn't know it yet
At this time he is still living with the ow. God is in control.

I had people get mad at me because I would not give up on my husband.
I also stopped talking to people who tried to discourage me.

They would say you just think it is to hard to give him up. Little did they know the not giving up is the hardest thing you will ever do, but well worth the effort.

You hang in there.
God is awesome

[schapman1]

I must say that an affair was never an issue in our 9 years of marriage. I had no desire to stray and she worked a full time job and then picked up the kids and wa home for the evening. still just like. in every marriage problems and diffaculties arose.alot of the issues were issues that I am responsible for and God is able to heal and restore.
I pray for that. missed my 5 years old kindergarden graduation yesterday. I didn't even know about it .It hurt. I wouldn't have been allowed to go most likely for right now anyway.]
I stand adn keep praying and appreaciate all who wil pray and stand with me. it is a blessing to have such support.

[babycakes]

I have lifted you and your marriage up in prayer this morning and will be happy to continue to do so.

Have you been able to meet with a counselor or pastor? I only ask because you mention that you have made mistakes throughout your 9 years of marriage. When we have someone else to talk to and to hold us accountable for our marriage, it makes all the difference in the world toward making permanent changes within ourselves. I know God can help us with the changes when we ask him, but he also encourages us to take steps forward on our own and trust Him. I know that self-change didn't occur within me until I saw a counselor - I couldn't see, or didn't want to see, my own sinful behavior. I wasn't doing a very good job of making permanent change on my own. Oh, I would try for a couple of weeks, but fall back into the same hurtful patterns all over again.

People here on the boards have mentioned having hope through this all even if the papers get signed. There is hope as long as she does not remarry. There is hope as long as she sees permanent changes in you.
She is watching - she's watching to see if she sees the same old similar patterns of behavior. She wants to feel justified in her reasons for divorce.

So ask yourself - Am I showing love? Am I filled with joy? Do I resonate peace or turmoil? Am I patient in all things? Am I a reflection of kindness? Am I filled with Christ's goodness? Am I faithful with my eyes, my heart, and my body? Is there gentleness in my spirit? And last - self-control - am I easily angered, bitter, resentful and wanting to hurt her as much as she is hurting me?

The fruits of the Spirit are these things that I have mentioned. Do you recognize them in yourself?

[schapman1]

Thanks for teh prayer support and the great points. Not only Have been talking to Ministers(yes more than one) I havealso been seeing a christian Counselor.I have also joined a Mens prayer and bible study Cell Group so that i can fellowship and recieve encouragment andprayer support from The men in my Church. The toughest partand yes there are tough times. Is the fact that i miss her so terribly and i miss being with my family. I pray for God to soften her heart and give her a spirit of forgiveness and to work a miracle in our marriage. I am standing on teh promise of my Vows. again thank you for the prayers and please continue to do so. It's great to be a part of God's Big family.

[resecured]

schapman1,

You are so right when you call this forum a part of God's Big Family. Haven't you received such wisdom? Know that I am praying for you and your famly.

RJ

[schapman1]

Well here's an update of sorts. I finally agreed to giver sole custody of the boys(knowing that it can always be changed later) Rather than be argumentative and demanding to my wants and desires where our children are concerned. i simply decided to stop being selfish and put forward an act of Good Will and faith on my part. It was the hardest thing i've ever done. Communication has all but died, have hardly talked on the phone, and except for just a couple of short responses to my email and to myspace messages. She just become almost invisable. After nearly 2 months where we were talking online and on the phone, The no communication part is really tearing me up. I know she has been spending alot of time with her Mom(who doesn't know we are talking)
Her family may be pushing her to stay away given the circumstances of the seperation. Still praying for God to soften her heart and to work a miracle in our marriage. I hope and pray fro the Chance to work on the marriage together witha christian marriage counselor so that we can move past this so our marriage can be stronger than ever before.
Please continue praying with me.

[mhaprov]

I will pray for you this morning and throughout the rest of the day. I'm starting a 24 hour fast after lunch today, and I want to devote a lot of the time to prayer for all of the broken marriages and the standers who need the strength to continue standing. I will absolutely be praying for every marriage going through rough times on this board.

[schapman1]

Thank you so much for the prayers and support. it means so very much to me. iwas brought up and taught that there is much power in prayer and Intercessory Prayer is agreat effective tool in the Body of Christ.Agaian thank you for standing in teh Gap not only for teh restoration of my Marriage but also ofr others standing for the Marriagecovenant in their lives.

[DeerSeason]

How's it going now? Hope it has gotten better.

Restraining Orders are a tool often used to gain advantage in a desired divorce, and when wielded by women, they work very well.