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[ladyt]

Hurting Spouse: Lord, You could make my marriage better. Lord, don't You see my tears? I know it must break Your heart, when your children hurt. It is hard for me to understand when I know that You could fix this in an instant.

The Lord: Recall the beauty of trusting the only One who can see what is and what is to come. Remember my words in Nahum 1:7: "The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him."

Hurting Spouse: Lord I am doing all that I can to do the right thing in my marriage, however my spouse is not changing so I feel it’s pointless.

The Lord: Oh, nothing I do is pointless. Nothing you go through is pointless. This lesson will work good for you now and it will work good for you in the future. You only think you know what is best for your marriage. But I have such a grand plan and purpose in all this. Proverbs 19:20-21: "Listen to advice and accept instruction, and in the end you will be wise. Many are the plans in a man's heart, but it is the LORD's purpose that prevails."

Hurting Spouse: I just need to know why I have to go through this.

The Lord: You don't have to have answers. You just need to trust. Isaiah 55:8-9: "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the LORD. As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts."

This was one of my devotions that I modified to fit my marriage situation. There is nothing like the Word of God in times of trouble.

I pray a special blessing for each of you that are hurting. I pray that you accept the peace from the Comforter and not try to get ahead of God, it only makes matters worst. The good news is that God is a loving God and a forgiving God.

We know that He will work things out in the end, however its the middle part of the trial that hangs us up.

Be Blessed and Expect a Blessing!

[FaithHopeJoy]

By sharing this devotion with us you have been a blessing and an encouragement to others. Thank you, LadyT. On a personal note, your timing couldn't have been better. I really appreciate this 'conversation between God and a hurting spouse'.

How are you doing, sister? I notice a sense of peace and calm reflection in your recent posts. Is that an answer to our prayers? God bless you.

[ladyt]

Hi FHJ

I am at peace knowing God sees and knows what's going on. I am no longer monitoring his email or cell ph activity. I know what I know. He can help with our reconciliation but he chooses not to.

It does pain me to live in our home in front of our teen daughter with him not communicating with me and sleeping in the other room. He knows this bothers me. He gets a phone call and talks up a storm. When I try to strike up general conversation I get short answers on head motion for yes or no.

I am patient but this can be trying at times. Communication is key in a relationship. It dies w/o it. Right now it seems he doesn't care if it dies.

Prayer is my only chance for my marriage. I am trying but it takes two. I'm prepared for whatever the Lord allows. He knows best.

[resecured]

Dearest ladyt,

Thank you so much for that devotion. Perfect timing. Such wisdom. I love reading God's words. It's like we know all of this but it so helps to keep feeding ones mind with the truths. I was having a bit of a valley day and now feel so uplifted. Thank you so much, dear sister. I am keeping you in my prayers constantly.

Dearest FHJ,

How are you doing? I wonder about you all the time. Just know that you are here in my thoughts and prayers. Isn't it wonderful to know that we can come to this forum and receive such a blessing from each other?

I want to send each and every one of you a "((((Hug))))". Know that it is filled with concern, understanding, warmth, and respect.

Always, -RJ-

[ladyt]

Hello,

I am doing well. I went through a period where I took my eyes off God and placed them on my spouse. This caused me to do things I would never have thought I'd do. However I have repented and given it to the Lord. Although, God used all what I did to show me Himself. He's awesome!

My H still does not wish to talk or has shown any effort to save our marriage. At this point I feel its in God's hand and will not try to talk to him about our marriage any more. God will have to work on him or he will lose the very ones who love him the most.

We are still in separate bedrooms. He informed me yesterday that the week I'm having surgery July 22nd is a busy week for him. Not sure what that meant so I asked and he responded that it meant what it said.

I'm moving on and will no longer allow him to draw me into his tactics of emotional abuse. I pray for him and all spouses that are believers, however blatantly operating outside the will of God.
I’m praying for all and thank you all so much for what you bring to the Kingdom of God.
Just waiting on the Lord, encouraging myself in His Word, trying to stay focused.