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[Elligirl]

It has been awhile since I posted anything about my marriage on the site. I have tried to keep up with everything that is going on with you all and do pray for you.
As some of you older members may remember I have been standing for my marriage for over a year. The other woman left my husband once again at the end of June and was gone for two months living with two different men in that time. At the first part of September she called him once again to come after her, which he did. He is without a job so they have been together most of this time plus she has made most of the people she has used for her escapes in the past mad at her and they will not help her anymore. It looks like if she leaves this time she is going to have to face him with it. Before she always left when he was working.
A week ago last night they were out drinking with some of the people she knows family I think and they wanted to go to the house my husband and she is living in and spend the rest of the night there drinking ect. My husband for all his drinking does not want other people in his house because he is afraid they will destroy it so he said no. He was very drunk at the time and one of the men with them pulled him out of the truck and beat him so bad the doctor at the ER thought he was going to have to have reconstructive surgery on his face. After the beating(they were at the other peoples house) he managed to get back in the truck and told her to get in. She refused. He came to my house because he knew I would help him. I spend all the rest of the night and the next day and most of that night getting him taken care of. He did not have to have reconstructive surgery but did need someone who had that much training to stitch him up. While all this was going on (the man who beat him being arrested and in jail) the ow called and tried to get my husband arrested instead not once but twice. I spoke with the deputies that had made the arrest and they said there were no marks on this man except on his hands where he had beat my husband.
Yet when my husband with the help of pain medicine was able to get up and go to her he went and picked her up and took her back to where they were living. He has not called me since.
I know some of you at this point are convinced both my husband and myself are insane. But God told me when he called me to this stand that my husband would need me when this adultry came to an end. And yes I would prefer that it does not have to get any worse before my husband turns back to God. I ask of you to help me pray for my husband once again that God would turn him To Himself. I pray day and night for this. Would you please help?

[SAM]

I have prayed for you and your marriage and will continue to do so.

For the sake of your physcial safety, I also pray that you are not being physically intimate with him.

[resecured]

Elligirl,

You are one steadfast woman. Your strength can only be from God. I will continue to pray for you and your situation. Just one thing though, be careful that he doesn't allow any of these people to harm you in any way. Like Sam said, be careful.

-RJ-

[montanna]

Elligirl!

Of course we will pray! You do have amzing faith. And in reading the story I could not help but to think that maybe God allowed this to happen to him so that he will se just what you are doing and how sick this OW is.

no pun intended, maybe he will get the senses knocked into to him. He has to see that this does not serve him! I am praying for you sister!

p.s. do u have kids???

brandy

[Elligirl]

Thank you all for your prayers.

Sam, no we are not together in that way. I told him the last time it came up that I love him and want only him but until he feels the same way about me I do not want us to be together in that way.

Montana, no we do not have any children. In a way it might have helped me to have his child a part of him to be with me every day.

resecured, because we live in a very small place and everyone knows everyone else I had thought of the possibility of these people coming after me. I worked for the Sheriff's office at one time and so I went to the Sheriff he knew all about these people and said I was not in any danger. I still take care because I live in the country and am alone.

I had thought after all this that he would have seen her for what she really is.
I had a dream last night my husband was trying to hang himself but for some reason he could not. It was hurting him but not killing him, he was turning himself in different ways to try and do so. I climbed on a ladder to try and cut him down and he pushed me away. I woke up and started praying for him seeing by this drean he is truly at the end of his rope. I would drift back to sleep and wake up again to pray.
I do feel God is working.
Thank you all again

[SAM]

I am glad you made the decision to not be intimate. I know it has to be very hard when you so crave the affection and touch And, if and when that is possible again, please be sure he is tested for AIDS and STD's, since you have no idea where this woman has been.

[Elligirl]

Sam, God has already taken part of the needing to be tested away. When he was being stitched up from the beating one of his doctors stuck herself with the needle. He had to give a blood sample to test for HIV they have to notify you in twenty four hours if the test comes back positive and it was my phone number they had. The call didn't come. So that was good.

God bless you

[SAM]

Funny how God works.

[Elligirl]

I say this allot because it is so true. God is in control.
I had someone tell me not long ago that satan was trying to kill me and my husband. That is why God has kept my husband away from me to protect me. It just made so much sense.
I love my husband very much and miss him more than I can say. God is working all this out and I know my prayers and the prayers of others are what God wants so we can all have a part in it. Our God is truly awesome.

[montanna]

YES HE IS

And it is so cool to see and hear what he does in all of your lives! Without all the ugly turmoil, not sure if we would ever see God's work in such great ways!

b

[Elligirl]

Maybe that's why the Bible tells us to be thankful for all things.
Our Father doesn't cause these bad things to happen to us but He does use them for our good.
I can't wait for my husband to come home so I will get to see first hand all the things God is doing in his life. I know for a fact He has been very busy in mine.
God bless you