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[mithos22]

I've been believing for restoration of my marriage and my husbands salvation for many years. The whole time he's been unfaithful. I've known, however I've just tried to keep loving him and being kind and trying not to bring up the past. Underneath it all I'm sooo angry. I'm hurt. Rejected and it's like he doesn't even care. He left me 1 month ago with nothing. Which is not unusual for him. Hey I'm fed up and tired. I just don't think it's worth it anymore. I'm just sooo angry and I know God doesn't like us being angry. I want to be whole, new and transformed. If he has to go for good, then good riddance.

[SAM]

So sorry you have joined us under these circumstances.

I would encourage you to read a book called Love Must Be Tough by Dr. James Dobson. It is one thing to stand for your marriage, but a different matter to be a doormat to your husband's whims.

It is understandable to be in a place of exhaustion from this experience. I want to encourage you to find time for yourself in solitude with God, and to seek his wisdom and peace. If He is guiding your decisions, you will have peace and clarity. If not, there will still be anxiety and chaos.

[mithos22]

yEs, i will check out that book. Also, I believe you're right. It's time to stop allowing him to walk all over me. If I can just find the right balance in all of this. He's gone now, and my prayer is that I can just move forward, in God, and start growing in the areas I'm lacking. And if He decides to come back, then I have to see that he wants change. Last time, he never cut off past relationships. I found notes, pics and very inappropriate stuff behind his infidelities. Lord help me, pleassseeee.

[SAM]

Have you been able to find a pastor, counselor, women's group or mentor to work with? I think that would be helpful to you. It's important not to isolate yourself.

[mithos22]

Yes, Im aware. I have spoken with a trusted councelor who has helped me greatly.

[SAM]

I want to encourage you to consider a woman's support group too. Knowing you are not alone in your journey is often helpful in healing and providing strength and wisdom. Maybe your counselor can recommend something or there are many Sex-Anon chapters held in churches through the United States. This a program similar to Al-Anon but is for people whose partners are sex addicts and is a chapter of Sex-Aholics Anonymous.

In the meantime, I am more than happy to pray for you, your husband, and your marriage. I'm sure others here on the GT boards will too.

[mithos22]

Yes, thank You. I will try something....I was thinking about going to womens recovery home. See I haven't told you everything, but Im in a situation where I have to be out of my home by Thurs. I have no where to go. Maybe they'll have what I need. I'm just unsure because I feel like my situation is different. Im not coming from the streets. Im being evicted. After my H left and decided not to continue the rent. Please pray for my safety and that I'll end up in the right place. I'm hurting and angry right now.

[SAM]

I will pray that you find a place that is safe. Is there a church that you can reach out to for assistance?

Also, anger is an emotion God provides us with. It's okay to be angry with your husband and the situation he has left you in. What God asks us to be careful about, is not to sin in our anger, which oftentimes means the desire to get even or make the other person hurt as much as they have hurt us. Your anger is understandable to God.

[montanna]

Mithos,

I have lifted you up in prayrer....

Please call someone even at a local church Womens shelter, something. There is help out there. I pray you will find some place very soon and safe!

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[mithos22]

Good advice. Thanks.