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[jtorres11]

well let me start off that im 20 years old .. i have been married since i was 16 so its almost 4 years. I started off pretty negative in my marriage. for the first few months it was good but then my husband was very addicted to * games so i felt alone with my son. After a while it didnt bother me i was pretty much a single woman as i saw it and so many other people. I did everything on my own and with my son besides finacially. Then there was a a point after two years i was done being and feeling alone. So i had told my husband i was going to leave him but i gave an ultimatum * games or us. it was already in my head that he was going to choose his game but shockingly he didnt he choose us.
But before i had took that step i was curently in school at college and had met a young smooth talker who charmed me and made me feel everything that my husband didnt. i fell for it.
There was one day where i was drinking to be silly and i had school later on in the night and my husband and i ended up getting in an argument and well i was so emotional already and went to school ditched with this guy and we ended up having sex. After that it was wierd but we were still friends and kept our freindship and at time still had sex once and while. But this had happend right before i was gonna tell my husband i was going to leave him .. i was already set in my head well i have someone else and i dont love my hsuband anymore .. and blah blah blah.. i was thinking wrong. Well since my husbnad choose us i was schooked and didnt have the guts to leave and stayed. anyways it a long story and very complicating.

anyways i went to church a few weeks ago and it was about sin and well god was sure speaking to me... after that i have been feeling gulity. i fasted and god said once again u need to tell him. well its been about 3 weeks now and just dont know how to tell him .... how do u tell someone that loves u so much that u screwed up? he has already told me if i sleep with someone its done he will never be able to see me the same... but the sad thing is now i am seeing what a great awesome husband i have. he has changed so much and now ive screwed it up. i am afraid he is going to take my son away from me ...i dont care about all the other stuff beside my son. and im truly sorry what i did i asked god for forgivness. i was not going to tell my husband but its eating me inside. Oh and we just bought a house a month ago!! great right!

i need help!!! i need advice! i dont know who to go to ... i dont want to go to my parents because i feel so ashamed.
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[km]

I suspect that I will be in the minority here.

Under those circumstances, if my wife had truely seen the light about me and the marriage, and was going to really repent and be the good wife - I would not want to know, I would just want her to 'go and sin no more' and be that best wife possible.

I am sure others will think diferently on this. Probably radically differently.

[SAM]

i fasted and god said once again u need to tell him

If you truly feel God has asked you to tell him, then out of obedience, you need to do so.
When we decide to take the small (and sometimes BIG) steps of obedience, amazing things
seem to happen.

You may need to see a marriage counselor for awhile to work all the stuff out... but that
may not be a bad thing after all.

I married at the age of 19. We didn't spend much time learning about communication and
conflict resolution. We were missing tools in our toolbox. Perhaps, this may be the step
you need to take to get your marriage back on track - completely ... and without regret.