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[sthedford]

My husband and I have been separated for about 2 yrs now. He immediately moved in with other woman. I tried moving on, tried dating and even living with old boyfriend from high school. I was always thinking of my husband and our family though. We are not divorced thank God, and I am no longer in any other relationships. I do not try to talk to husband as he is almost always ugly to me. I think we may have spoken to each other twice this year alone. I am very depressed and would really like never to wake up again. These past 2 yrs have been a nightmare and tourture to me. Since the separation my life seems to have spiraled out of control....I mostly believe it was because I no longer cared if I lived or died. I just don't know what to do anymore.

[SAM]

Welcome, glad to have you with us at GT community. Do you have a church that you attend regularly? Are you able to spend some time talking with the pastor, or with a recommended counselor? I think this would help you sort things out.

There is an emptiness within, and it seems like you may have been trying to fill this with new men in your life. The thing is, God is the one who longs to step into this place and walk along side you, through it. So, that you are not alone.

[veggiemelt]

I'm very sorry to hear of your continuing heartache. Often times as women, we lose sight of our individuality and we become whom ever or what ever we are through our husband's eyes. We seek approval and acceptance from him and we either love or hate ourselves based on his outward actions toward us. If we do not feel loved by the man that we love, then we cannot love ourselves. We place all that we are in his hands. If that man betrays us, or loses interest in us, or worse, leaves us - we completely lose all respect and value in ourselves.

The thing is, an earthly man is not a measure of who we are or what kind of value we have. No earthly man can or should cause us to lose love and respect for ourselves. But when we lose sight of our Lord and start to see ourselves through man's eyes, we forget that Christ loved us to much that he Died for us, and in God's eyes, we are worthy of everything that is good and beautiful and perfect. Through Christ, we can become pure and beautiful in God's eyes, and that love and beauty that shines in us through our trust in Him, is what makes us truly beautiful inside and out as a human woman.

Do not allow yourself to live and suffer any longer by seeking the love and approval of an earthly man. Place your heart and your life in God's hands and let him show you true love. Once you have learned to love and respect yourself again, your heart will heal and you will no longer feel the pain in your life from a man who does not love you or respect you.
You truly deserve to be loved, and God already loves you and respects you right now, today, just the way that you are.

Go out today and do something nice for yourself, get your hair done, or buy a new dress, do something that makes you feel special and treat yourself like somebody that you really care for. Start to do something nice for yourself every day, treat yourself the way that you want to be treated, You don't need a man to make you feel good about yourself. God gave you a body and a mind, it was his earthly gift to you, take care of it, believe in yourself, it is what God wants for all of us to do. Take pride in who you are, and try to be the very best person that you can be. Then go out and do something kind for someone else. Forget about that man who left you, just work on you right now. Even if you did want to try to reconcile your marriage, you have to learn to love yourself again before you can truly love another person.

Pray for God to show you who and what you really are through his eyes, and pray that he will strengthen you and give you inner peace and love for yourself. God is waiting for you with open arms.

[resecured]

Beautifully put!!!!

[SAM]

There is a wonderful book by Angela Thomas called Do You Think I'm Beautiful? It is indeed true, when you are able to find love for yourself and understand God's love for you, relationships have a way of changing.