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I like the idea of making the physical side of our relationship fun and not just the same ol same ol... I have always been nervous about toys and such and have feared I would get something he would enjoy better than myself or something that was used in porn (my husband has come out of this) that would make him tempted to go back....I have gotten fun little things here and there that we have enjoyed and laughed over, but recently I got something and I have found it bothers me that my husband asks for it... I went from a athletic trim girl to a mother of three and I know I am not what I was once so it's hard not worrying I will not be able to meet his needs. Can toys and aids be wrong, is it something I should get over, talk about?????
Thanks!

[km]

You've been pretty vague/subtle/cryptic about what you recently got, that he is now asking for, so it is hard to give precise response or advice - but - generally speaking, anything the two of you do together, involving no 3rd parties (live or imaged in *, etc.) and does not harm or degrade either of you, is OK.

Precisely what might harm or degrade either of you is a moving target that will vary with each individual couple.