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[veggiemelt]

I just wanted to let you guys know that I am moving soon and will most likely no longer be active on this forum. I am not sure where I am going yet or if I will be going alone or with my husband, but I am out of town now searching for work in another city and do not know where I will end up.

Through this forum, I have been able to resolve many issues and problems in my marriage and with God's grace and help I have come to have a better understanding of many things and grown in my faith. Still, as much as I love my husband and I want to share my life with him, there is one issue that continues to plague our marriage and I have come to a point where I feel there may be no resolution. I have come to a point where I need to step away from most everything in my life and figure out what God is asking me to do. I think I may already know, but I do not like His answer, nor do I know how to deal with it.

I would like to Thank all of you for your prayers and support and most of all for your friendship through difficult times. You have truly been a blessing to me. I wish you all health and happiness and a growing faith in Christ.

In Christian Love, Veggiemelt

[rdsmith3]

veggiemelt

I am sorry to hear that. My prayers are with you. Your contributions to this forum will definitely be missed.

[km]

I am sorry to hear of your personal upheaval. May God grant y0oosome peace, as well as providing clear direction to you (and your husband). I know the pain of life and marital upheaval and uncertainty, and certainly don't wish any bit of that on you.

I (personally) and the forum (generally) will greatly miss you. You've been deeply caring for us, and exceedlingly generous with your time and efforts to assist all here. Your insights to the ladies' side of life and marriage have been invaluable to us fellows.

Please, please, please keep in touch, at least with updates now and then (either here publicly, through PM or by email).

k

[FaithHopeJoy]

veggiemelt

You have been a great blessing to many on this Forum, myself included. You have given sound advice, selflessly, and we should be thanking God that you found this Forum. The extent of globalization is so pervasive that you would have to be going a very long way - or to an extremely remote place - for us to lose connectivity with you . All the more reason for us to pray that God will hold you safely in His arms in the days and months ahead.

God bless you - our dear sister in Christ.

FHJ

[resecured]

Dearest veggiemelt,

As you can see, we do not want to lose you! I for one do understand the need sometimes to step away to get a clearer picture of things. I pray that God will give you the "peace that passeth understanding". I just want you to know that your postings have helped shed a different light on my situation. Allowing me to see many things from a different perspective that I might not have ever even contemplated before. Thank you for that.

I also pray that your searching of what God wants from you will somehow lead you home again. Know that our hearts go with you. Please, do keep in touch somehow.

-RJ-

[SAM]

Dear sister, this is a sad day. I wish you could share a little more about your struggles, but I understand your need to be silent.

You will be deeply missed. The insights you have provided have helped so many here at GT community.

When God helps you figure this all out, please come back and let us know how you are doing.
I want to encourage you to stay connected. God didn't design us to be isolated... it doesn't usually work out for our benefit when we do so. Remember, even God lives in community.

Love you. Take care.

[veggiemelt]

Many Thanks and prayers to all of you, your friendship and Christian love and fellowship will be missed and never forgotten. KM and Rd, thank you especially for the honesty and respectful male insight you have provided. This has been a profound point of growth for me and in my marriage. You have truly opened my eyes in so many ways and my love and respect for my husband has grown deeper through that. And to Charity, my dear friend, I will miss you so very much. It is astounding how much you can grow to care for someone without ever seeing their face or hearing their voice and it reminds me much of the way that we form a relationship with our Lord.

You all have made a true and lasting mark on my life. You are forever in my heart and in my prayers.
All my Love, Veggiemelt

PS, to those of you who have my personal e-mail, please keep in touch.

[km]

veggiemelt - Once again, we all wish you the best, and will greatly miss your fine, strong contributions to this forum (no one more than I, I suspect).

While I understand that you have a need to step away (at least for a time) and support you in that, I will urge you as emphatically as I can, please do not lose touch entirely. Please check in periodically - publicly, by PM or by email - and let us know how you're doing and where you're at with your struggle.

I know the group prays for each other, fervently, help us continue do so for you.

k

[rdsmith3]

I agree with km -- never say never -- but you have to do what is best for you.

In any event, I am glad that you did post a farewell. There are some valuable contributors in this forum who have just disappeared without warning, and I am concerned if it is because they are experiencing extreme marital difficulties, or because that are as happy as can be and feel no need to be here.

Also, when we pray for each other, it is good to hear the outcome of situations, to learn how God answered prayers.

[SAM]

Answered prayer gives us an energy boost, doesn't it?

[charity1]

veggiemelt,
Thank you. I have come to think of you as a dear friend as well. It is obvious you have grown in your love and respect for your husband. There is no doubt you are doing everything in your power to figure him out and to be able to communicate better with him. I believe the Lord will bless your efforts. You have a real gift for being able to speak the truth in love. Not many people have that. Your posts definitely helped me to grow. I always looked forward to reading them. Just remember, no matter what is happening in your life right now, you are not alone, God is with you, and you have the thoughts and prayers of your brothers and sisters here. Keep in touch. I will miss you very much.

[FaithHopeJoy]

veggiemelt

We really appreciate you telling us that you are "going somewhere" because we have come to love and expect your open, detailed and honest responses in our shared times of 'doing life' and coping with joys and heartaches. It is good to know you have grown through the experience as well as giving so much to the Forum. RD is spot on with his comment that so many of our Forum friends 'disappear' without trace. For me, Jeannie and Fishi come to mind today. Ladies - if you're out there, please know that we hold you in our hearts and pray regularly for you.

FHJ

[rdsmith3]

For me, Jeannie and Fishi come to mind today.
FHJ

Well, since we're naming names, those were the two I was thinking of, also.

[veggiemelt]

You guys are all so sweet, you made me cry.
I feel strongly I am heading in the right direction for now and I know that what ever God has in store will be a blessing and a growing experience. ( km, thanks for affirming that.)
You guys mentioned jeannie - I just wanted to let you know that I have contact with jeannie and she is doing well. Her vow renewal was awesome and she is very happy.
I will continue to check e-mail notifications from growthtrac, so keep in touch.
Again, thanks so much you will all be missed.
All my Love, Veggiemelt

[km]

veggiemelt is doing OK.

I have periodic email contact with her. Her last message was leaning positive.

She greatly appreciates your continued prayers while she is taking her little (we all hope) "time out" from here and devoting full attention to working on several things in her life.