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[Wynne]

These tips were gathered by (mostly) women who share household organization encouragement with each other in the FLYLady group.

It appears they share some good Bible-based love for God as well. I found the simple tips on what to do very special, little things that would help me to train myself to be more like Jesus.

Whether the trouble is a personality clash at work, an estranged spouse, or an actual, physical, attacking enemy, we all need to look to Jesus for the example of how to deal with it and forgive. We only hurt ourelves with continued bitterness.

Tips To Help Us Pray For Our Enemies:

I. Set the atmosphere for prayer.
A. Play spiritual music on the stereo
B. Sing
C. Find your quiet place and pray there

II. Make yourself right with God first.
A. Confess your sins
B. Confess why you are having a hard time praying
1. He already knows, he want you to hear it.
2. Be honest and spill your heart
C. Pray for wisdom and insight
D. Ask others to pray for you
E. Ask someone to pray with you at first

III. It is your duty to pray for your enemy.
A. Read a scripture to help
1. Ephesians 3:14-21
2. Proverbs 16:1-7.
3. Proverbs 25:21 & 22.
4. Matthew 6:14
5. Romans 12:14
B. Look at what Jesus did when he was being abused
1. Matthew 26:36-75
2. Mark 14:43-72
3. Luke 22:47-71
4. John 19
C. You can do this

IV. Put this person in prospective
A. See them as a little child
B. See them as a child of God
C. Remember they are only flesh and blood too
D. Satan is after them as well

V. Start simply
A. Asked God to Bless their heart
B. Thank God for the Good that is in this person
C. Do this even if you don't believe it.
D. Ask for blessings for them that you would want
E. Write down a simple prayer and read it
F. Substitute their name in the blanks.

VI. Reasons to pray.
A. It will do you even more good than it will
the person you are praying for
1. You will release the anger
2. It will help you sleep at night.
3. You will not have bad feelings eating you up.
4. You will not be sinning.
B. Your inability/unwillingness to pray
1. Is a sin
2. This means Satan is after you too.
3. You are no better than your enemy.
4. You are a good person.
Good people pray for their enemies.
5. Unforgiveness is like a woman in labor, crossing her
legs tightly and yelling "No! I won't do it!"
C. You will be blessed
1. Your burden will be lifted
2. God can and will change their heart
3. If not he will take your vengeance
(coals of fire on their heads)
a. (If this is the only reason you pray
you will not be blessed!)

VII. Example of simple prayers:
A. Ask God to melt their heart of stone
B. 'Bless her heart, Bless her heart'
C. 'Heavenly Father, you are all knowing and all wise.
I am just a human and do not understand everything
that happens. Please give me guidance to deal with
your child, "XXX". Father, give XXX the wisdom to do
what is right. Help XXX to remember that we are all
your children and that you want us to love one
another and treat each other with love. Give XXX
your loving guidance in all she does'.
D. Smile every time you think about this person
E. Every time you have a bad thought about them
1. Ask for forgiveness
2. Say a prayer for them right then and there
3. This will help you to realize and control your
thoughts
F. Set a specific time to pray for them
1. When you wash the dishes
2. When you take a bath
3. When you are driving
4. When you watch the birds
5. When you do something you really enjoy doing

[webacus]

Awesome. Thank you.

[Wynne]

It was recommended to me at a time when I sorely needed it, and I am thankful.

[Berretta]

Simply Awesome

[Janine]

I like the practical suggestions. I mean, down to lighting candles & relaxing with no distractions in your "quiet place".

Very good.