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[mymomslife]

It's been approximately 4 1/2 years since my husband and I were seperated by court order because of his assault against me. We had been married at the time for about 25 years, however, though apart, We are still married. I have also been recovering from a relapse of chron's disease that I was diagnosed and initially treated for back when I was a new wife and mother around age 20. I am now 49 years old. In all we have three children , who are all now grown. I've gone through some tough times. But with faith in God, who graciously blessed me with believing, God centered children. I've so far been able to press on. The only reason I'm writing at this hour is to get some relief from holding this all in while I get re-centered, while I am dealing with more potential trouble from my spouse, who has just suddenly been fired from his job under dubious circumstances and has asked the court to review his support * to me. I'm not necessarily questioning the truthfulness that he is fired, I am a bit wary of the possible intent behind it. Whether it was a subconscious act to escape responsibility towards me. There is a history of his unwillingness to support me in light of the fact that I seldom held a job, but did on accasion work out-side of the home to help supplement his income when we were raising kids, but I have since been too ill, too often to do that with any regularity in recent years, apparently much to his chagrin. I was qualified for SSI when we seperated but since I have been "getting better" with treatment the good folks at social security feel as though I am well enough to go back to work. "WHAT WORK" I have been a homemaker which was fine with me, because I am deathly afraid of having B.M. accidents when I leave the house for long periods, as I am still not in total control of my bowel functions and I'm told because of the extent of my last surgery in 1996 to reconnect my colon most likely wont return. This thing may well be a psychological response to my problems, but the amount of time I spend running to get to a toilet especially when I'm stressed like this is for real!!! Thanx fo lett'n me vent...

[RBrownTN]

I'm sorry to hear about your health issues - I'll certainly pray for God to guide you to some decisions that are in His will.

You say, you've been seperated for 4-1/2 years. During this time - what has happened for you two to reconcile your marriage?

[SAM]

We're glad you felt you could come to GT and share your story. I will keep you and your marriage in my prayers as well as your health.

You've now been separated for 4 1/2 years? What steps have been taken during this period to get help for your husband and counseling. Has there been any steps toward healing, or has this been a fight all the way? Do you have an attorney who can assist you with your need for financial support from your husband?

I just received a copy of a book called The Maker's Diet which is the story of a man with Crohn's and his steps toward restoration and healing of his body with this diet. Might be worth reading.